FEBRUARY 18 2021 – “H. MONK – GROCER AND PORK BUTCHER” – HARROW COTTAGE BY THE OLD PLOUGH IN IFIELD VILLAGE – CIRCA 1904

Alfred Monk [1877-1937] or George Monk [1881-1952] and their sisters outside Harrow Cottage –  the family shop and home “H. Monk – Grocer and Pork Butcher” ? The Old Plough on right [now Old Plough Cottage] – Photo: circa 1904 [kindly provided by Jane O’Sullivan]

Photo source: Zoopla

Original Sign [which still exists behind Harrow Cottage/Old Plough Cottage]

 

 

Ifield Street – 1905 – Francis Frith Collection

 

 Ifield Street, Ifield Village [Photo source: West Sussex Record Office] -circa 1910?

Harrow Cottage and Old Plough Cottage – Photo by Zoopla – circa 2018

 

St Margaret’s Parish Church Cemetery in Ifield Village

Henry Monk died Sept 3rd 1913 – aged 69 years – along with his wife Mary in 1904 – aged 60 [left gravestone]

Matthew Monk died Jan 20th 1892 – aged 72 – along with his wife Philadelphia in 1900 – aged 81 [right gravestone]

“The grave of Henry Monk can be found in the cemetery at St Margaret’s 13th century church in Ifield Village. He died in 1913 aged 69. The gravestone is inscribed thus: ‘His sufferings are now over We know this is for the best Who could wish him back again From such a place of rest’. His wife Mary died in 1904 aged 60. Her gravestone is inscribed thus: ‘A mother dear is finally called A voice we loved is still A place is vacant in our hearts That time can never fill'”

~ Richard W. Symonds – The Ifield Society

 

SHORT HISTORY – WITH GREAT THANKS TO HORSHAM’S JANE O’SULLIVAN, WHO PROVIDED ALL THE MATERIAL, FAMILY TREE AND PHOTOGRAPHS [Jane has pieced together the information but has no connection to the Monks. Facts or amendments from other sources would be welcomed. The Old Times book will be donated to a Sussex History Society].

Alfred Monk was born in Ifield in 1877 and died in Horsham in 1937 aged 60 [his father was Henry Monk who was born in 1844 and died in 1913 aged 69, and his mother was Mary Monk who was born in 1844 and died in 1904 aged 60. Both Henry and Mary were married in 1864 at St Margaret’s Church in Ifield village, and are buried in its cemetery.

Henry was a Grocer and Pork Butcher at Harrow Cottage by the Old Plough [what is now Old Plough Cottage] in Ifield village – opposite the Old Vicarage. Henry’s sons [Alfred and/or George] followed his father into the business.

 

 

Margery Redford [nee Monk] was the daughter of Minnie Monk???

Margery A. Redford [1902 – 1989]

Archibald R. Redford [1885-1966]

Margery died in Horsham in 1989. Margery had the original copy of “Old Times 1806”, written by Hephzibah Starnes [her grandmother] in 1881:

“Old Times 1806” – Page 1

Excerpt from the book [Page 1]:

Anne Morley [1784-1848] – see Starnes Family Tree – “Annie Morley, that gentle sweet eyed girl, such a graceful willowy figure, with the look of seriousness blending with a kind heart…”

Edward Wheatley [1780-1811] – see Starnes Family Tree – “Edward had selected all the flowers. He understood the language of flowers. And every flower had a life of its own. And a meaning” [Pages 3 and 4]

 

 

The Crest of Hephzibah Starnes

Starnes Family Tree

Copy of Original

Transcription of “Old Times 1806” – (written 1881?) by Hephzibah Starnes

Inside front cover says “ Old Times 1806 as(?) 1881

Jane O’Sullivan notes in bold type (2021)

Front Cover

Back cover

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I must take my Reader back eighty years ago Before Railways were even thought about for this quiet retreat and Picturesque Barcombe time has indeed erased(?) many of the dear little nookes(?) corners. With two Railway stations were none were thought of It is quite a bustllng place so different life is, Indeed one of endless changes. Methinks I can see Annie Morley that gentle sweet eyed girl such a graceful willowy figure with the look of seriousness blending with a kind heart. I can see with what joyous steps she is wending her way towards Barcombe Old Mill.

Annie Morley was born in Sussex on 12 September 1784

Such a smile of contentment is on her face. And just one one lash has strayed from beneath Annie’s firm Bonnett through hastening to meet her sweetheart. Yes Annie has been engaged for 6 years to Edward Wheatley the miller.

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Edward Wheatley was tall and not particularly Handsome, but comely, he certainly had fine eyes, but not very strong in health. Annie’s mother felt doubtful at times whether it was wise for them to marry . They had been attached to each other so long it would have been cruel to have parted them.

Edward was returning from Lewes where he had purchased Furniture for their little cottage near the Mill.

And also the Wedding Ring, they were going to be married at Barcombe Church in the course of a few days.

They had also 2 Pigs in the pound and a large Faggot stack, everything promised and looked a happy future for them.

Mrs Morley was in very comfortable circumstances. Annie’s mother and gave Annie many useful and valuable presents.

Edward Wheatley was born on 17th July 1780 in Fletchling, Sussex. He died in 1811.

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They had one present of half dozen silver tea spoons, Silver Tongs with E A W Engraved on them. They are still in the family, quite an heirloom.

We will leave the record of their meeting but I think we cannot e???ess ourselves by the subject of lover’s meetings. It is to(sic) sacred where true love abounds.

Let me take your meandering minds to the morning of Annie’s Bridal Day. It was a lovely June morning. Annie was looking so Handsome with the white roses twined with her artistic hands on the white satin Bonnet and you should have seen the Wedding dress so simple in its purity. It was white spotted French muslin and the posey, Edward had selected all the flowers.

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He understood the language of Flowers. And every flower had a life of its own And a meaning.

Phebe Wheatley and Susan Price they were both great friends of Annie Morley. Phebe was Edward’s Cousin. Susan Price was the Grocer’s Daughter at Barcombe. It was a pity that time their pretty faces were completely hidden by the Bonnetts of that period. You must think back to the time of 1806 and short waisted Gowns. But still their were still the pretty faces. And I think although I don’t remember young Girls were more modest and reverant towards their parents.

Taking all things into one’s mind

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Those were good old times not to be spoken lightly off(sic).

Now my dear reader you must suppose that we are all arrived at Barcombe Church and the ceremony is going through. Annie is speaking very nervously but still you can hear every word distance. Edward Wheatley looks at Annie as the sunshine secret(?) To kiss the few curls allowed to stray on her brow. Their(sic) is such a deep unchangeing love in that look. Annie’s mother, Mrs Morley sees the glance ,the tears seem to come when she wanted to be brave. She was thinking of her own youth And also thinking with grief that her dear husband William

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would be taken to his last rest err long. He had been ill for many months. It was the only one thing that took the Gaity and brightness away from the Wedded lovers and their friends.

The Clergyman spoke a few very kind words to Annie and Edward after they had written their names in the Vestry Book. They were both greatly esteemed by the venerable Rector and Annie and Edward were Sunday School teachers which of course brought them under his notice. They kept their Wedding at the Cottage the Home they thought of spending many happy years together. I must mention that Edward was an orphan. You might have thought it strange

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no mention being made respecting his Parents they they had been dead for years. In fact before Edward had quite served his apprenticeship.

Mrs Morley returned back to her home, partly on account of her husband. We must pause a moment my dear And I think it was only a few months after Annie was married that her Father died. It was a terrible grief to them all. Mrs Morely who was still a most active energetic Woman felt she could not like the life of idleness although she was most comfortably provided. She had an Idea

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that if she could take a shop in Lewes and sell Antique China and Bric a Brac, she would have the best class to deal with and that would enable her to get good prices for her articles. Mrs Morley eventually did take a large corner shop the top of Beer(?) Hill Lewes and almost opposite Dr Smythe, you know where he lives. The business prospered more than ever she thought. Mrs Morley was different for her Customers said very different from people in trade. She was extremely lady like .

Dr Lewis Smythe MD MRCS, aged 30, born in Ireland lived at 200 High Street in 1851.  It seems possible that he lived at St Anne’s House (now number 111, previously 200 High Street) which is opposite the Lewes Old Grammar School and Shelleys Hotel today [Note: The information about Dr Smythe was researched by Gill, a volunteer at Library Sussex Past. It’s taken from the 1851 census and 1859 Post office directory].

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There was an air of refinement. She looked born a lady. I believe her ancestors were all [middle class crossed out] and Citizen(?) people not Bergoise. What I mean, not people you may say serfs of the soil. I must now leave this esteemable lady for Annie had been married years half when to their great joy

THE NEXT PARAGRAPH HAS BEEN REPLACED BY A PIECE STAPLED OVER THE TOP

[she was mother of such a bouncing baby. They were delighted and of course the Baby name must be Edward. He was a very weakly Fractious baby and gave much trouble. What with teething and ?????]

there came a little son but a poor funny chlld.

It’s life was like a thread. Edward was always a source of trouble and ??ly? He never proved to be worthy of the trials and patience the Mother had bringing him up

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Childish of ???? (crossed out), about this time Annie’s husband caught a very bad cold coming from laughter one bitter cold night, not being very strong either and he always suffered so from colds and coughs he had acute inflammation and his lungs became affected.

The Doctor thought it a very serious case but still gave hope that the warm weather would pull him through. And so it did for about two years – when Annie’s little Edward was ]three(?) crossed out] Years 10 months there was a little baby girl to cheer the heart of poor Annie. But Edward grieved when he see the dear little baby in Annie’s arms. He prayed fervantly to God to spare him, if but for a few years longer.

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How can I leave my darling was the inward cry in his heart.

NEXT SECTION IS CROSSED OUT

[Then again God seemed to appear in a vision to him and with open arms crying Come to me. Be at rest I will give you peace.]

The poor fellow knew he was doomed and could not live many months longer. He was so patient he was a Godly man and he did not fear death. The nearer the end the more happy he seemed to be. Of course when Annie and her little babies were round the bed at the finale it was heart rending, but after wishing them all Good Bye, their came an angelic smile

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and heavenly peace and he was at rest to that seat which we all hope to obtain from our ???

Now that Annie was left to the world’s mercy, she found that their home at Barcome must be given up and she would have to seek a living for herself and children. Her mother Mrs Morley was thinking at that time it would be advisable to give up her Business at Lewes to her daughter Annie. Having a Comfortable Independance of her own, the Business in Lewes was a good payday

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and she knew that no better one could be trusted with it so Annie took the Business over. Everything seemed to prosper for a few years when there came a hindrance. Tradesman also a Widower with three children. He was attracted at first by her good looks and also because of her excellent circumstances in business but after, it was her sweet affectionate temperament, her own self. He loved her, or thought he did. He was persistial in his affections. She was foolish enough to

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believe him, although sometimes she had grave doubts as to the truthfulness of what he said but it is like all faithful women, they are blind to any faults which can be discerned by outside people. The man they love must be perfection, let him be the greatest example the world can produce. How can women be so blind when they have to live with handsome men for husbands. They are not such angels as they appear. And they make most unhappy homes, being selfish and want everyone’s attention.

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Fancy themselves little Kings and the Wife, the slave – do this do that and sometimes a gentle knock down or a quiet pinch, there are really not all bad but I must say a great number are. I cannot myself say advise these fine fellows, our period and eighty years ago they were about as brightly in presence Ah well for our life pass on and on. It is a lottery as I said John Renold was indeed a handsome man. He had a good home to offer Annie Wheatley if she would accept. He had three daughters, Janet the eldest,

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who was to be married soon to Douglas Cameron a canny Scotsman; Marion the second daughter and ???? were at home. Janet was twenty. They were very nice looking girls. Annie used to consider – sometimes whether it was right to accept John’s offer or not. It was the two familiar Could they be happy together – It is very rare it turns out well – what Annie’s children being much younger than John’s she thought they would be more likely to agree. And she eventually accepted ???? gave up the Beer(?) Hill business and then took up her home. In the Cliff Lewes were Annie opened up a Fruitiers China shop. This is supported by the 1841 census which shows her and her family living on the High Street, St Thomas in the Cliffe, Lewes. Her husband William Starnes, (67) is a coachman and Annie (57) is a Green Grocer. Hephzibah, (17), and Esther (15), are living with them. Annie Morley had married William Starnes on 13 March 1814 at St Anne’s Church Lewes. I can’t work out who John Renold was.

Annie Morley died in Lewes on 7 February 1848 aged 63

By the 1851 census, William Staines aged 76 is a Pauper, living in the Union House Workhouse, Lewes. His occupation is given as Master Coach Maker. He died in Lewes on 18 April 1852.

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Her husband – Business Close to the bridge of Lewes ??? Coachbuilder. He kept is Blacksmith and ?? to wash in the shops as well. Sometimes after his daughters Janet and Marion were married they went out to Australia – not much more was heard of them. And the years rolled by and Mrs L??als had a family of five children by her second husband, their names were three sons and two daughters names Hephzibah and Esther. The sons were all very plain looking,

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the girls carried the patina of Beauty they were two handsome girls. Hepsy was certainly the best features beautiful hair, complexion very Lady every inch of her. It is not surprising considering our ancestors(?) were nobler on the maternal side, but German(?) Esther was never in good health . Asthmatical and used to walk in her sleep and hide things. Hpezy used to have her toe tied to Esther so that she woke her when she go out of bed. One night she took Hepzy for a nice stroll

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all down stairs, down into the cellar and brought back a shoe she had hid one night. Walked back to bed never woke up. She was rather different from Hepzy, did not like work and very untidy. Hepzy was so careful, particular and such a comfort to her mother who did not have a very happy time with her husband John, he was a bit gay, just of spark, as the sons grew up they all followed their trades, except Fred and he turned out a ??? man

Esther Starnes married Albany Packham in Brighton in 23 Feb 1843 – she was 18. They moved to America where they had a large family. Esther died in Kentucky USA in 1904.

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and went for sailor on Man of War. He went away to Africa I think. Was gone some time helped to take either a slave ship or pirates got a nice little lot prize money. Came home to Lewes, spent his money on bad woman and drink, cards. He stayed at the Clarence Hotel, Brighton till he spent it all then he deserted his ship. He always went by the name of Wheatley ever afterwards. He picked up with an unfortunate woman they lived together. I believe he married her afterwards. I think his behaviour very bad to her. I think she walked the streets one time for him.

Inside back cover says “To be continued New Book”

Further information on Hephzibah Starnes – the writer:

In January 1850 Hephzibah married Stephen Stoner at Steyning Parish Church. He was a Publican. In the 1851 census, they are running the “Bolt in Tun” Inn, 64 Fleet Street, in the City of London.

The couple appear to have spent the late 1850s in Victoria, Australia where they had a couple of children. Her daughter Alice, according to the 1881 census was born in Melbourne.

By the 1861 census, they are living at 14 Lyon Street, Islington. Stephen is listed as a Licensed Victualler

By 1866 a Directory says he is running the Hare and Hounds in Partridge Green. He is also running the Hare and Hounds in 1871. He died in 1872

According to familysearch.org he was buried in West Grinstead on 25 July 1872. He and Hephzibah had 8 children.

By 1874, Hephzibah was the landlady of The Gunn Inn, Findon and was still there at the time of the 1881 census with two of her daughters, Alice, a barmaid, and Minnie Kate, a scholar. It would have been at around this time that Hephzibah wrote her “Old Times” book.

On the 21 November 1888, Hephzibah married Thomas Cruttenden at Islington Parish Church. Her address was given as 20 Essex Street – presumably in Islington parish. Thomas was a Widower and a Letter Carrier for the GPO. He and Hephzibah had 2 children together.

By the 1891 census, Thomas is a book seller. They are living at 2 Nelson Terrace, Islington with their children Fanny & Arthur.

Hephzibah died in Islington on 17 January 1893 aged 69. She left a Will leaving £102 7s 6d to Alice Greenfield, her eldest daughter by Stephen Stoner. In 1891, Alice was living in Charlwood with her family, but by 1901 they have moved to Australia.

THE BOOK “OLD TIMES” WAS IN THE POSSESSION OF THE LATE MARGERY REDFORD WHO DIED IN HORSHAM IN 1989. Margery was the grandaughter of Hephzibah Starnes. She was the daughter of Hephzibah’s daughter by Stephen Stoner – Minnie Kate Stoner who was born in Partridge Green in 1868 and died in Horsham in 1946. Margery’s father was Alfred Monk who was born in Ifield in 1877 and died in Horsham in 1937. Margery Adina Monk married twice, firstly in 1930 to Henry Sydney Napper. Henry died in 1939 and Margery remarried to Archibald Ronald Redford. She was well known in the local community, particularly the Trafalgar area of Horsham but had no children.

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